Mary Louise and David's newest culinary endeavor is officially underway. APPLESAUCE!! They both seem to love it. I've let them play with apple slices in the past (with close supervision of course) and they have historically loved it! So, I thought it might be fun to try them puree style.
Mary Louise is making some really wonderful progress with eating. She is finally opening her mouth wide and swallowing most of what goes in. She has in the past flip flopped with eating - some days taking a bite or 2, others wanting nothing to do with it at all. I've kept the same routine with them (and especially her) regardless - I offer it to her, and if she doesn't want any at all, I'll give her some banana slices or carrots - or both to play with and just move along with the day. But the applesauce - now that was a hit from the get go.
David is a very solid and consistent eater and has been doing extremely well with spoon feeding all by himself. The strangest thing I've noticed about him is that although he usually prefers to grab and feed with his left hand, he uses both interchangeably throughout activities.
On to the drinking. They are so incredibly curious about everything we (Brent and I) have in our hands, use, eat, drink, etc. Once they got a try with a cup of water, they were hooked. Therefore, I've been working with them on drinking. Though they'll keep their bottles for quite some time, they really are quite good at holding an open cup with both hands, guiding it to their mouths and sipping from it. Now, that's where things get a little sketchy...David swallows the water, Mary Louise looks up, grins and drools it down her front. Regardless, it's pretty fun for all involved. They aren't drinking anything other than breastmilk - and I plan on keeping it that way as it is highest in calories and by far the most nutritious thing for them, but the little tastes of water are something slightly different and they seem to like the cold feeling of it.
Sleeping: ah my beauties. If it's possible, Mary Louise smiles more in her sleep than she does awake. Other than actually playing with them, watching them sleep is by far the most amazing experience- watching pure grace breathe in and out, smile, breathe, squirm, reach out their tiny hand, clutch mine, snuggle, smile, breathe. Their sweet smell resonates. One on either side of me and Brent - forever our rock- there with his little family. Time actually stands still.
Sleep my babies - for tomorrow we try squash!!
xo,
Heather
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Friday, January 29, 2010
9 month checkup
We all went to the pediatrician yesterday for Mary Louise and David's 9 month checkup. They really did beautifully - and as it turns out, didn't need any shots - just a little blood work and a once over!
They are both almost on the growth chart for height - not for weight but are following their own curves there. The doctor was very pleased with their progress. Mary Louise weighed 11 pounds 8 ounces and was 23 inches long. David was 9 pounds 13 ounces and was 21 and a half inches long. (mind you they were both heavier and longer at Kid's Team and home health checkups over the last 2 weeks).
Nutritionally they received high marks as well - having fantastic lab values when tested for iron (anemia).
The long term goal is to wean them off of Zantac and probiotics. I will not start that until after David's surgery though. They will remain on those nasty vitamins for a bit longer...
David has his surgical consultation next week. So, here we go...
We are having a bit of a rough day today as there is absolute torrential rain outside complete with rolling thunder and lightning flashes. David is none too pleased about the weather (needless to say). Though overall Mary Louise is just fine - a little mopey - but doing well.
We went on a nice long walk in the park through the trails yesterday evening in anticipation (and preparation) for the pending storm and subsequent cold front. We'll be inside staying warm and dry for the next few days until the next round of sunny weather comes through.
xo,
Heather
They are both almost on the growth chart for height - not for weight but are following their own curves there. The doctor was very pleased with their progress. Mary Louise weighed 11 pounds 8 ounces and was 23 inches long. David was 9 pounds 13 ounces and was 21 and a half inches long. (mind you they were both heavier and longer at Kid's Team and home health checkups over the last 2 weeks).
Nutritionally they received high marks as well - having fantastic lab values when tested for iron (anemia).
The long term goal is to wean them off of Zantac and probiotics. I will not start that until after David's surgery though. They will remain on those nasty vitamins for a bit longer...
David has his surgical consultation next week. So, here we go...
We are having a bit of a rough day today as there is absolute torrential rain outside complete with rolling thunder and lightning flashes. David is none too pleased about the weather (needless to say). Though overall Mary Louise is just fine - a little mopey - but doing well.
We went on a nice long walk in the park through the trails yesterday evening in anticipation (and preparation) for the pending storm and subsequent cold front. We'll be inside staying warm and dry for the next few days until the next round of sunny weather comes through.
xo,
Heather
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Mr. Thumbsucker Nonaps
If you say it quickly, it has almost a Dick Tracy feel to it. You can call him David for short though...
I went in to check on the babies the other night for probably the 5th or 6th time literally - the 100th if you want the exaggerated estimate - and there he was, My David. He'd thrown his bottle out yet again and replaced it with - you guessed it- his thumb. Now, he's done this off and on since birth - seriously. If you've been reading this all along you might remember me mentioning it on week one or 2 when he somehow worked his little fingers around his vent tube and BINGO! In the mouth his thumb remained. It was, however, successfully traded for Wubbabnub for a matter of months but he's now grown tired of keeping up the charade. He is a true thumbsucker - probably did so from the day he grew that little opposing nub. Alas - most of me still smiles when I worry about things like weaning him from his beloved little friend lest he's destined for a life of braces and brackets - of which he'll likely have anyhow as he's related to me for crying out loud! I love the luxury of worrying over such trivialities. In truth, he could walk in his doctoral graduation robes proudly sucking away with a ridiculously crooked smile and I would by far be the proudest (and most entertained) mother on the planet!
Now, his next new habit...is quite a different matter! The "Nonap" ending to his delinquent name is starting to really elicit a grinding of teeth upon its mention. Last night at (I kid you not) 1am we were privy to a concert of "Agoo!" and "Ooooo" and very loud "PFFFFFT" noises (which would be a sort of motor boat sound in which he sprays down his audience with spit). I finally sat up to look at him only to get an enormous grin and uproarious laughter (from him) as he thinks the shear fact that he can wake up his whole family with his play is quite simply hilarious! I'll admit, he's is very hard to stay irritated with - ok - in truth, I can't stay irritated at all. Nonetheless, this is where moments of dressing little boys in little girl clothing come into play! A Nonap baby an exhausted Mommy does make! He does sort of dose for periods - he may give me just enough time to pump...but eat AND pump?! That's a no go.
Couple that with Mary Louise's need for constant eye contact, and the fact that they are now into being a little jealous of whomever is being held, and I'm pretty sure I'll be babbling with the best of them soon enough.
I read an article long ago that said mothers who breastfeed show signs of very mild brain damage and slowed reaction time later in life. (I'm sort of glad I can't find said article now and am in the process of convincing myself that I totally made the entire thing up.) Couple that with the utter lack of sleep and I'm confident that I'll be the one who ends up developmentally delayed!
xo,
Heather
I went in to check on the babies the other night for probably the 5th or 6th time literally - the 100th if you want the exaggerated estimate - and there he was, My David. He'd thrown his bottle out yet again and replaced it with - you guessed it- his thumb. Now, he's done this off and on since birth - seriously. If you've been reading this all along you might remember me mentioning it on week one or 2 when he somehow worked his little fingers around his vent tube and BINGO! In the mouth his thumb remained. It was, however, successfully traded for Wubbabnub for a matter of months but he's now grown tired of keeping up the charade. He is a true thumbsucker - probably did so from the day he grew that little opposing nub. Alas - most of me still smiles when I worry about things like weaning him from his beloved little friend lest he's destined for a life of braces and brackets - of which he'll likely have anyhow as he's related to me for crying out loud! I love the luxury of worrying over such trivialities. In truth, he could walk in his doctoral graduation robes proudly sucking away with a ridiculously crooked smile and I would by far be the proudest (and most entertained) mother on the planet!
Now, his next new habit...is quite a different matter! The "Nonap" ending to his delinquent name is starting to really elicit a grinding of teeth upon its mention. Last night at (I kid you not) 1am we were privy to a concert of "Agoo!" and "Ooooo" and very loud "PFFFFFT" noises (which would be a sort of motor boat sound in which he sprays down his audience with spit). I finally sat up to look at him only to get an enormous grin and uproarious laughter (from him) as he thinks the shear fact that he can wake up his whole family with his play is quite simply hilarious! I'll admit, he's is very hard to stay irritated with - ok - in truth, I can't stay irritated at all. Nonetheless, this is where moments of dressing little boys in little girl clothing come into play! A Nonap baby an exhausted Mommy does make! He does sort of dose for periods - he may give me just enough time to pump...but eat AND pump?! That's a no go.
Couple that with Mary Louise's need for constant eye contact, and the fact that they are now into being a little jealous of whomever is being held, and I'm pretty sure I'll be babbling with the best of them soon enough.
I read an article long ago that said mothers who breastfeed show signs of very mild brain damage and slowed reaction time later in life. (I'm sort of glad I can't find said article now and am in the process of convincing myself that I totally made the entire thing up.) Couple that with the utter lack of sleep and I'm confident that I'll be the one who ends up developmentally delayed!
xo,
Heather
Monday, January 25, 2010
Weekend Update
We've had a busy weekend at home filled with walks, diaper changes, cereal eating, trying some new foods and enjoying family. Mom was right - the busier the babies get, the busier I get! (I really didn't think it was possible for me to get any busier!)
The weather was a bit sketchy but we managed a walk or 2 anyhow, Brent had a meeting on Friday and got home rather late so I was on my own for the day - and for the dreaded bath and nap time. We spent the entire day outside (that day was nice) and went on a walk every time the babies got fussy - consequently, I walked about 6 miles that day altogether. Overall, things went well though. It's definitely easier with 2 sets of hands, arms, laps, etc. But is possible with just one - if patience is afforded to everyone.
Yesterday I made spaghetti FROM SCRATCH!!! (thanks to Kyle's helpful hints on making a sauce from a simple 3 pounds of fresh tomatoes) The babies "helped" from their Bumbo chairs which I put in the kitchen. They beat on pots and lids, played with spoons and a spatula and "tasted" red bell pepper (meaning they sucked on it for awhile - and really seemed to enjoy it)and did some light paper mache work with their rice cereal (ha).
Bath time was much needed post cooking! (this was taken during outside time -but you get the idea!)
Dinner was quite good if I do say so myself. An aside: I have found that Mary Louise cooperates much more with eating cereal if I put it on something else - i.e. I dip a raw baby carrot in it and she eats it off of the carrot (only if she puts it in her mouth herself mind you) and yesterday, I sliced off a large piece of red bell pepper and used it as the spoon for the day - she loved it! So, I'm still figuring things out as I go - and doing what works for us (which usually means taking the least complicated and quickest "no fuss..." way possible- and concerning food, the freshest as I worry about added sodium and loss of nutrients due to over processing).
Although it was rather difficult to cook with the little ones, for the first time, it was actually possible. They are able to entertain themselves for about 15 min. or so at a time before demanding attention again. So, with that in mind, I did 15 min of work, then had play time, nap time, etc. with them, then got a few more things done in the kitchen. Needless to say, I don't cook very often anymore...I'd like to think the hiatus won't last too long though.
While I was cooking, Brent cleaned up the yard. Time for us to get it together for the warm weather to move in! He trimmed, cut back and edged, then burned the leaves. It definitely looked/ looks much tidier out there though I was so tired when he was done that I (shamefully) didn't offer much praise at the time. So, Brent, you are appreciated - even though I don't tell you NEARLY enough!
So, we enjoyed our weekend here - got plenty done and had fun times to boot! I am waiting for the pedi office to call back about a consultation appointment with the surgeon. I'll try to restrain myself for today and not fuss about the fact that my phone call request for the surgeon's office phone number and a consultation appointment took 30 minutes (mostly of hold time), I had to go through 3 people before anyone knew what I was talking about (because they don't do this all the time?) and without even asking my name, I was asked what insurance we had - then told that I would have to wait for my request to go through their "referral department" for "processing" and "approval" before receiving a phone call back with either "a phone number or a date and time to show up and meet with the MD" (info courtesy of very rude very raspy voiced nurse on the other end of the line). Umm - because David hasn't had this surgery hanging over his tiny head since his birth (9 MONTHS ago) and because obviously this approval business shouldn't have been taken care of the first, second, third or 4th time I've ask about the process of making an appointment with the surgeon only to be assured (by the pedi) that I could just call and make one- just to be sure to give about 2 weeks of time to try to get in. So right, I will restrain myself today, tomorrow though - now that's a completely different matter...
xo,
Heather
The weather was a bit sketchy but we managed a walk or 2 anyhow, Brent had a meeting on Friday and got home rather late so I was on my own for the day - and for the dreaded bath and nap time. We spent the entire day outside (that day was nice) and went on a walk every time the babies got fussy - consequently, I walked about 6 miles that day altogether. Overall, things went well though. It's definitely easier with 2 sets of hands, arms, laps, etc. But is possible with just one - if patience is afforded to everyone.
Yesterday I made spaghetti FROM SCRATCH!!! (thanks to Kyle's helpful hints on making a sauce from a simple 3 pounds of fresh tomatoes) The babies "helped" from their Bumbo chairs which I put in the kitchen. They beat on pots and lids, played with spoons and a spatula and "tasted" red bell pepper (meaning they sucked on it for awhile - and really seemed to enjoy it)and did some light paper mache work with their rice cereal (ha).
Bath time was much needed post cooking! (this was taken during outside time -but you get the idea!)
Dinner was quite good if I do say so myself. An aside: I have found that Mary Louise cooperates much more with eating cereal if I put it on something else - i.e. I dip a raw baby carrot in it and she eats it off of the carrot (only if she puts it in her mouth herself mind you) and yesterday, I sliced off a large piece of red bell pepper and used it as the spoon for the day - she loved it! So, I'm still figuring things out as I go - and doing what works for us (which usually means taking the least complicated and quickest "no fuss..." way possible- and concerning food, the freshest as I worry about added sodium and loss of nutrients due to over processing).
Although it was rather difficult to cook with the little ones, for the first time, it was actually possible. They are able to entertain themselves for about 15 min. or so at a time before demanding attention again. So, with that in mind, I did 15 min of work, then had play time, nap time, etc. with them, then got a few more things done in the kitchen. Needless to say, I don't cook very often anymore...I'd like to think the hiatus won't last too long though.
While I was cooking, Brent cleaned up the yard. Time for us to get it together for the warm weather to move in! He trimmed, cut back and edged, then burned the leaves. It definitely looked/ looks much tidier out there though I was so tired when he was done that I (shamefully) didn't offer much praise at the time. So, Brent, you are appreciated - even though I don't tell you NEARLY enough!
So, we enjoyed our weekend here - got plenty done and had fun times to boot! I am waiting for the pedi office to call back about a consultation appointment with the surgeon. I'll try to restrain myself for today and not fuss about the fact that my phone call request for the surgeon's office phone number and a consultation appointment took 30 minutes (mostly of hold time), I had to go through 3 people before anyone knew what I was talking about (because they don't do this all the time?) and without even asking my name, I was asked what insurance we had - then told that I would have to wait for my request to go through their "referral department" for "processing" and "approval" before receiving a phone call back with either "a phone number or a date and time to show up and meet with the MD" (info courtesy of very rude very raspy voiced nurse on the other end of the line). Umm - because David hasn't had this surgery hanging over his tiny head since his birth (9 MONTHS ago) and because obviously this approval business shouldn't have been taken care of the first, second, third or 4th time I've ask about the process of making an appointment with the surgeon only to be assured (by the pedi) that I could just call and make one- just to be sure to give about 2 weeks of time to try to get in. So right, I will restrain myself today, tomorrow though - now that's a completely different matter...
xo,
Heather
Friday, January 22, 2010
Sunny days are here again!
We've had a beautiful few days here - fit to have "nakey time" under the carport outside!! The babies LOVE it! I set up their toys on blankets and we sit and play and play and go for walks (aka - take a stroller nap) and come back and play some more!
Yesterday I got them stripped down to do some diaper rash therapy. They got so so excited. Mary Louise kept her toes in her mouth the whole time. David danced a jig, then acted like every thing was totally normal and proceeded to become engrossed in playing with his toys. Everything was wonderful - until David decided to (uhem) rain on our parade (now, you knew that was coming right?)
The good weather couldn't have come at a better time. I have been getting a bit stir crazy here so have really appreciated the option. The babies seem much much calmer outside as well - they always have actually. (No doubt this has something to do with the fact that I am much much calmer outside...)
They have both pretty much perfected the "B" sound and are working on "Ma" and "Da" with some success. Exciting things are coming!!!
Must run as they are FINALLY sleeping so I can get a few things done around here!
xo,
Heather
Yesterday I got them stripped down to do some diaper rash therapy. They got so so excited. Mary Louise kept her toes in her mouth the whole time. David danced a jig, then acted like every thing was totally normal and proceeded to become engrossed in playing with his toys. Everything was wonderful - until David decided to (uhem) rain on our parade (now, you knew that was coming right?)
The good weather couldn't have come at a better time. I have been getting a bit stir crazy here so have really appreciated the option. The babies seem much much calmer outside as well - they always have actually. (No doubt this has something to do with the fact that I am much much calmer outside...)
They have both pretty much perfected the "B" sound and are working on "Ma" and "Da" with some success. Exciting things are coming!!!
Must run as they are FINALLY sleeping so I can get a few things done around here!
xo,
Heather
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
The mighty David!!
David has reached 10 pounds!!! He is officially in 0 to 3 months clothes now. His length was 24 inches today as well. My 2 foot muscle man! So exciting!
Another month of Synagis shots out of the way. The countdown is on for the arrival of Spring.
Here are Ma Mere and Pop's photos from their stay here last weekend...
xo,
Heather
Another month of Synagis shots out of the way. The countdown is on for the arrival of Spring.
Here are Ma Mere and Pop's photos from their stay here last weekend...
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| Christmas tree 2009 January visist 2010 |
xo,
Heather
Monday, January 18, 2010
mommy blunder of the week...
So I was getting the babies changed after banana time this morning. I put little Mary Jane style socks on tiny feet. I picked up a pink and gray striped long sleeved onsie complete with puff sleeves and a sweet gathering at the neck. I gently put it over a tiny, soft head with just a few silky hairs beginning to sprout. The head popped through...and David's bright eyes stared up at me. He was smiling...half dressed in Mary Louise's clothes. Way to go mom - I'm pretty sure I should rethink my sleep / wake cycles...
We had a nice visit with Brent's parents (Ma Mere and Pop) this weekend. They patiently waited for Mary Louise to disconnect herself from my hip and play with them without pitching a fit - a long 2 days later, she was more than happy to sit with Pop and laugh at his funny faces and noises. Brent and I were even able to sneak off leaving the babies in perfectly capable hands so that we could have a quick lunch date.
Not much else happening today - just getting back to routine after all of the happy holiday visits.
So sorry David. I would say it won't happen again but all I can really promise is that I'll try...I would keep my sense of humor if I were you though - with me as your momma, it may prove to be your saving grace a time or 2!
xo,
Heather
We had a nice visit with Brent's parents (Ma Mere and Pop) this weekend. They patiently waited for Mary Louise to disconnect herself from my hip and play with them without pitching a fit - a long 2 days later, she was more than happy to sit with Pop and laugh at his funny faces and noises. Brent and I were even able to sneak off leaving the babies in perfectly capable hands so that we could have a quick lunch date.
Not much else happening today - just getting back to routine after all of the happy holiday visits.
So sorry David. I would say it won't happen again but all I can really promise is that I'll try...I would keep my sense of humor if I were you though - with me as your momma, it may prove to be your saving grace a time or 2!
xo,
Heather
Saturday, January 16, 2010
An explanation
I wouldn't normally do this (well I haven't felt the need to do it before) but I thought this little story was neat and a pretty good description of having a preemie...
It was discussed on the micro preemie parent site I frequent...
WELCOME TO HOLLAND
by
Emily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
It was discussed on the micro preemie parent site I frequent...
WELCOME TO HOLLAND
by
Emily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
Friday, January 15, 2010
Banana-rama!
The babies had their second try with bananas this morning. We (and I do mean WE) had banana slices, bananas on fingers, and hands, bananas on bibs, bananas over rice cereal, bananas on a spoon...I'm pretty sure we had bananas any which way you can think of...the verdict? Mary Louise and David like bananas!!
David likes bananas...
and Mary Louise likes bananas!
Well, she's very interested anyhow. We had lots of fun - squished and smushed around an awful lot, then had bath and massage time for everyone (well, everyone under 2 feet tall). David is and has been taking a nice long nap - Mary Louise, not so much...my little monkey seems to have found her voice - and my word, does she ever use it!
Good times.
xo,
Heather
Oh, I've added some photos to the end of this album...
David likes bananas...
and Mary Louise likes bananas!
Well, she's very interested anyhow. We had lots of fun - squished and smushed around an awful lot, then had bath and massage time for everyone (well, everyone under 2 feet tall). David is and has been taking a nice long nap - Mary Louise, not so much...my little monkey seems to have found her voice - and my word, does she ever use it!
Good times.
xo,
Heather
Oh, I've added some photos to the end of this album...
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| reading and Kyle's visit in Jan 2010 |
Wake up call!!
Early morning play time was moved up over an hour today as per baby(ies)' request (umm - well it certainly wasn't MY idea!). Much to my chagrin, we trudged out of bed and into the play room. The babies were wild! They played with their Baby Einstein mat for a little wake up warm up and quickly turned their attention to their Leap Frog table (an absolute favorite here). I did manage to hold their attention for a few minutes to practice some consonant-vowel sounds though.
During play time: Mary Louise decided she wanted whatever David had - no matter that part of the time it was the same thing- she wanted what HE had regardless. It occurred to me that most babies don't get lessons in sharing quite so early...She has been quite the little pistol lately - sometimes turning her head and smiling when she hears her name, studying faces - especially poor David's - with her hands, ha- her mouth, and her eyes. I mentioned before that she has been extra clingy...along with that comes much more fussiness and preference in the person she clings to - sometimes me, but sometimes she just wants Daddy (which of course Brent eats up - why wouldn't he?)!
They both anticipate bottles with open arms and open mouths. Their gross motor hand movements have become almost automatic - when you make a gesture to give them something, they respond by grabbing it.
Last night was a big night - they had their first taste of banana. I spoke with their neonatologist first to ensure that we weren't jumping the gun with respect to their adjusted age and in his opinion, tastes are fine - as long as it doesn't take away for their over all caloric intake of breastmilk. So, last night we tried...while the babies were sitting on Dad's belly - ha! They LOVED it!! It was amazing! The smushed that banana in their hands, mouths - and of course on their dear old dad! I have been a little concerned that Mary Louise never really took to the cereal - David really seems to enjoy it - Mary Louise on the other hand is very inconsistent - sometimes even finding it downright revolting. I'm not sure what it is (I mean really, it doesn't taste THAT bad - it has breastmillk in it and if she doesn't eat it from the spoon, she takes it fine in her bottle). I don't know, but as of last night she put to rest any concerns that I might have a non-eater on my hands. She did just fine. David acted like he'd been waiting for such a delicacy for all of his short life - he was just so excited! So we'll keep trying the banana for a little while. So far so good...
Back to this morning...
Mary Louise has a new trick: "Look Mom! No hands!" She is leaning a little against the table, but otherwise did just fine without my support!!
She also did something we've been working on for quite some time...(drum roll please...) she pressed the button on her key rattle to make it light up!!! Of course when I got all excited she looked at me as if I was completely ridiculous - as if she'd been doing that for months and it was just small potatoes. (sniff, tear) My baby girl is growing up!
Sweet David did his own thing throughout - he plays on the table as if he's just in his own little world - sometimes giving a funny look to Mary Louise who tends to be a bit of a brute when she gets going. His new trick is kicking his legs. He kicks them on command - courtesy of some patient teaching by Brent. We have been working quite a bit on muscle strength with them. He's so funny - he kicks and then looks to us with a big grin and waits for us to clap and tell him, "good job!" before kicking again.
That's the overview from this morning! Ma Mere and Pop to visit this evening for the weekend. Kyle left yesterday - what a help he was! (of course one can't complain when their having their own personal chef for a few days can one?) He cooked wonderful meals and had a grand time playing with babies. Thanks so much Smee!
Kyle playing with David:
xo,
Heather
During play time: Mary Louise decided she wanted whatever David had - no matter that part of the time it was the same thing- she wanted what HE had regardless. It occurred to me that most babies don't get lessons in sharing quite so early...She has been quite the little pistol lately - sometimes turning her head and smiling when she hears her name, studying faces - especially poor David's - with her hands, ha- her mouth, and her eyes. I mentioned before that she has been extra clingy...along with that comes much more fussiness and preference in the person she clings to - sometimes me, but sometimes she just wants Daddy (which of course Brent eats up - why wouldn't he?)!
They both anticipate bottles with open arms and open mouths. Their gross motor hand movements have become almost automatic - when you make a gesture to give them something, they respond by grabbing it.
Last night was a big night - they had their first taste of banana. I spoke with their neonatologist first to ensure that we weren't jumping the gun with respect to their adjusted age and in his opinion, tastes are fine - as long as it doesn't take away for their over all caloric intake of breastmilk. So, last night we tried...while the babies were sitting on Dad's belly - ha! They LOVED it!! It was amazing! The smushed that banana in their hands, mouths - and of course on their dear old dad! I have been a little concerned that Mary Louise never really took to the cereal - David really seems to enjoy it - Mary Louise on the other hand is very inconsistent - sometimes even finding it downright revolting. I'm not sure what it is (I mean really, it doesn't taste THAT bad - it has breastmillk in it and if she doesn't eat it from the spoon, she takes it fine in her bottle). I don't know, but as of last night she put to rest any concerns that I might have a non-eater on my hands. She did just fine. David acted like he'd been waiting for such a delicacy for all of his short life - he was just so excited! So we'll keep trying the banana for a little while. So far so good...
Back to this morning...
Mary Louise has a new trick: "Look Mom! No hands!" She is leaning a little against the table, but otherwise did just fine without my support!!
She also did something we've been working on for quite some time...(drum roll please...) she pressed the button on her key rattle to make it light up!!! Of course when I got all excited she looked at me as if I was completely ridiculous - as if she'd been doing that for months and it was just small potatoes. (sniff, tear) My baby girl is growing up!
Sweet David did his own thing throughout - he plays on the table as if he's just in his own little world - sometimes giving a funny look to Mary Louise who tends to be a bit of a brute when she gets going. His new trick is kicking his legs. He kicks them on command - courtesy of some patient teaching by Brent. We have been working quite a bit on muscle strength with them. He's so funny - he kicks and then looks to us with a big grin and waits for us to clap and tell him, "good job!" before kicking again.
That's the overview from this morning! Ma Mere and Pop to visit this evening for the weekend. Kyle left yesterday - what a help he was! (of course one can't complain when their having their own personal chef for a few days can one?) He cooked wonderful meals and had a grand time playing with babies. Thanks so much Smee!
Kyle playing with David:
xo,
Heather
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Rave Reviews!!
We went to Kid's Team today...MUCH MUCH MUCH better than last time. The babies "scored" at or just above their adjusted age of about 5 1/2 months on speech, PT and OT. Their actual age is just under 9 months so technically they are exactly where they should be. The overall goal is to never let them drop below their adjusted age. They are expected to "catch up" to motor function, etc. during their second year. Their size will likely remain significantly under other children their age for quite some time though. In general, preemies tend to catch up in every area (including size) during their first 2 years, however, when they are micro preemies - and small for even that category of premature baby, it can take up to 7 years for them to really catch up to their peers. At this point, however, there is no reason to believe that our little munchkins won't reach their genetic potential at some point.
The neonatologist seemed very pleased with their progress as well. But, the poor guy couldn't catch a break with Mary Louise today who SCREAMED hysterically every time he tried to interact with her or hold her. He was sitting on a stool when we walked into his exam room. He had a big smile on his face and beamed a "how are you?" to Brent and I. I immediately held out Mary Louise as if he was some sort of blessed being and I was offering my young (ha - in our book, he really is some sort of blessed being). He took Mary Louise while gushing about how good she looked and how big she and David had gotten. Mary Louise took one look at him and opened her mouth wide and let out a horrible scream as if she'd just been given a shot. Oddly, she's the one that usually doesn't mind others holding her - but she has been really clingy lately. David did beautifully, grinning and cooing the whole time. Oh well, maybe she remembers something from the NICU...
Otherwise, the babies "performed" beautifully! I think they displayed a pretty good overview of their skill level and I got some helpful hints to promote further development.
In addition, Mary Louise and David have been showing very strong signs of readiness for finger foods. They reach for just about anything we have and make the whiny "I want that" sound while trying to get it from our hands. They don't have teeth, but I can see banana slices, soft potato cube, a little avocado and whatever else I can think of (or whatever some of the long term breast feeding sites recommend)in their future.
Which brings me to my funny thought / observation of the day...I think it's funny to watch the reactions of others when I tell them I pump/ breastfeed. Their eyes instinctively stare at my chest - some look puzzled or nervous as if they're expecting me to somehow hose them down or at least seep through my shirt at any moment, some (most who have breast fed before) give my chest a nod - as in a "hat's off to you" gesture as props for my perseverance. I always giggle (on the inside at least). I'm sure I've done the same thing a time or 2. Just funny from this side of the fence.
So back to the original topic, the babies did very well today. We still have our work cut out for us, but have a focus on specific areas and seem to be on the right track. We will be working on the "ma-ma and da-da sounds", sitting up more steadily, and tripod sitting. After that is fine motor pinching with 3 fingers, getting up to all fours and rocking back and forth.
Hang in there babies! We (you) can do this!
xo,
Heather
P.S. I forgot to mention - Mary Louise is now 11 pounds 2 ounces and 23 inches long; David is 9 pounds 12 ounces and about 22 inches long (I didn't get the length today, but got it last week with the home health nurse). I once joked that I'd have 2 foot walking little ones around here...not such a joke anymore! Just to refresh...their birth sizes were: Mary Louise 12 inches long and 1 pound 6 ounces; David 10 and 3/4 inches long and 14 ounces - my how they've grown!!
The neonatologist seemed very pleased with their progress as well. But, the poor guy couldn't catch a break with Mary Louise today who SCREAMED hysterically every time he tried to interact with her or hold her. He was sitting on a stool when we walked into his exam room. He had a big smile on his face and beamed a "how are you?" to Brent and I. I immediately held out Mary Louise as if he was some sort of blessed being and I was offering my young (ha - in our book, he really is some sort of blessed being). He took Mary Louise while gushing about how good she looked and how big she and David had gotten. Mary Louise took one look at him and opened her mouth wide and let out a horrible scream as if she'd just been given a shot. Oddly, she's the one that usually doesn't mind others holding her - but she has been really clingy lately. David did beautifully, grinning and cooing the whole time. Oh well, maybe she remembers something from the NICU...
Otherwise, the babies "performed" beautifully! I think they displayed a pretty good overview of their skill level and I got some helpful hints to promote further development.
In addition, Mary Louise and David have been showing very strong signs of readiness for finger foods. They reach for just about anything we have and make the whiny "I want that" sound while trying to get it from our hands. They don't have teeth, but I can see banana slices, soft potato cube, a little avocado and whatever else I can think of (or whatever some of the long term breast feeding sites recommend)in their future.
Which brings me to my funny thought / observation of the day...I think it's funny to watch the reactions of others when I tell them I pump/ breastfeed. Their eyes instinctively stare at my chest - some look puzzled or nervous as if they're expecting me to somehow hose them down or at least seep through my shirt at any moment, some (most who have breast fed before) give my chest a nod - as in a "hat's off to you" gesture as props for my perseverance. I always giggle (on the inside at least). I'm sure I've done the same thing a time or 2. Just funny from this side of the fence.
So back to the original topic, the babies did very well today. We still have our work cut out for us, but have a focus on specific areas and seem to be on the right track. We will be working on the "ma-ma and da-da sounds", sitting up more steadily, and tripod sitting. After that is fine motor pinching with 3 fingers, getting up to all fours and rocking back and forth.
Hang in there babies! We (you) can do this!
xo,
Heather
P.S. I forgot to mention - Mary Louise is now 11 pounds 2 ounces and 23 inches long; David is 9 pounds 12 ounces and about 22 inches long (I didn't get the length today, but got it last week with the home health nurse). I once joked that I'd have 2 foot walking little ones around here...not such a joke anymore! Just to refresh...their birth sizes were: Mary Louise 12 inches long and 1 pound 6 ounces; David 10 and 3/4 inches long and 14 ounces - my how they've grown!!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Reading, Writing and Arithmetic
We're having a grand time here with a much needed visit from the last of the 4 uncles - Smee! (or Kyle - whatever you rather)...
Yesterday, the babies played with all of their soft books. I got a few photos of the first books they got into. They seemed to really enjoy the textures, and I caught them reaching and sitting up a little more to get the things they wanted from the floor.
We have Kid's Team tomorrow (the evaluation from the team of therapists) to make their progress official and to see what areas need the most work...sort of a dreaded day here though I'm trying very hard to just let it be what it is - another opinion.
Many many thanks for the gracious affirmations on my journey into motherhood! Very much appreciated!
xo,
Heather
Yesterday, the babies played with all of their soft books. I got a few photos of the first books they got into. They seemed to really enjoy the textures, and I caught them reaching and sitting up a little more to get the things they wanted from the floor.
We have Kid's Team tomorrow (the evaluation from the team of therapists) to make their progress official and to see what areas need the most work...sort of a dreaded day here though I'm trying very hard to just let it be what it is - another opinion.
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| reading and Kyle's visit in Jan 2010 |
Many many thanks for the gracious affirmations on my journey into motherhood! Very much appreciated!
xo,
Heather
Sunday, January 10, 2010
A needed reminder...
Last night Brent and I had a nice little date night complete with take out Chinese and a movie. The babies cooperated reasonably well - only fussing every now and then when the mood hit them.
Today started out ok - we were both exhausted as, in our zeal to spend a little time together we'd put the babies to bed a tad earlier than usual - consequently they woke up - a little earlier than usual. We of course had gone to bed a little later than usual after the movie ended so were none too pleased with the early wake up call by our little ones. But we finally conceded to have playtime - and watch the sun come up together.
We haven't been able to do our regular walks in a bit due to the cold weather but today I was hopeful that we'd get out for a little while as it was dry and the sun was bright in a clear sky. I was in such a frumpy mood (always one to need my dose of sunlight)...Brent and I were talking about the week with the little ones, I was saying how the physical therapy appointment went - then just burst into tears. I sort of puked out how upset I'd be if I somehow missed some exercise or task thereby stunting our babies even further - as if they need any more delays from an inept mother. I felt like they were maybe supposed to be a little further than they are developmentally and that they always seem to be teetering on the edge of being officially developmentally delayed- even for their adjusted age.
Brent smiled, looked at Mary Louise and David and said patiently, "I think it's time for a bubble bath." Ha - I don't know why I'm still surprised when he knows just what I really need. He continued on, "Heather, I don't know why you worry about things like that - they're beautiful, and perfect just the way they are - remember how far they've come and how they've grown under our care. Why does it matter if someone comes in here - or evaluates them at some appointment for a whopping hour and says otherwise? You know what they can do - and that's more than enough. I don't care if they are labeled "delayed" and you usually don't either. Besides, you know they do things in their own time anyhow."
I took the bath advice and he plopped Mary Louise in my lap - then a while later, switched her out for David. I sat in the tub for over an hour with them - just playing. They picked up their toys, kicked their little legs, grinned, giggled. They (and Brent) reminded me that although this prematurity beast is far from gone (and will probably always be around to some degree) that they are quite simply, babies and will be kids and even adults one day -they don't care about all of the therapists and medicines and insurance mess - they just want to play with toys and squish around in their cereal and snuggle with Mom and Dad. The simplicity of their wants and needs is so refreshing to me.
It's sometimes so difficult not to get wrapped up in over analyzing their every sound and move. I have so many people checking on me and asking about "what the babies are doing NOW" that I find myself constantly assessing them - are they ok - is that ok - was that movement right - am I doing everything I can to help them and facilitate learning.
I know we were finally able to bring our babies home after such a long struggle, but I was ill-prepared for just how connected we would remain to so many medical personnel. Our homecoming was by no means free and clear. Our revolving door of therapists and social workers and phone calls from doctors' offices has slowed significantly in recent weeks. However, the constant evaluations is enough to (in my opinion) drive the most seasoned of mothers mad... I must remind myself that we are all here for the same reason - to give these little ones the best chance to fulfill their enormous potential. Phew - I feel better now...
We did end up going for a long walk this afternoon. We went to the state park and walked the sunny roads rather than the shaded trails. 4 miles down and back home for a little more play time before night night feeding and bed. After my angst this morning over getting the babies to somehow "perform" to some make believe standard that I seemed to inadvertently impose upon us all, I had to giggle when David did this...
a "tripod" sit
and this...playing while sitting...
and Mary Louise did this...a tripod sit...
and this...just flat sitting...
Ok guys, I get it, in your own time. But does YOUR time always have to be 5 minutes AFTER I freak out about everything thereby consistently making me look like a big boob?! pft.
Sorry babies for being so anxiety ridden and impatient...I'm so so proud of you!
xo,
Heather
Today started out ok - we were both exhausted as, in our zeal to spend a little time together we'd put the babies to bed a tad earlier than usual - consequently they woke up - a little earlier than usual. We of course had gone to bed a little later than usual after the movie ended so were none too pleased with the early wake up call by our little ones. But we finally conceded to have playtime - and watch the sun come up together.
We haven't been able to do our regular walks in a bit due to the cold weather but today I was hopeful that we'd get out for a little while as it was dry and the sun was bright in a clear sky. I was in such a frumpy mood (always one to need my dose of sunlight)...Brent and I were talking about the week with the little ones, I was saying how the physical therapy appointment went - then just burst into tears. I sort of puked out how upset I'd be if I somehow missed some exercise or task thereby stunting our babies even further - as if they need any more delays from an inept mother. I felt like they were maybe supposed to be a little further than they are developmentally and that they always seem to be teetering on the edge of being officially developmentally delayed- even for their adjusted age.
Brent smiled, looked at Mary Louise and David and said patiently, "I think it's time for a bubble bath." Ha - I don't know why I'm still surprised when he knows just what I really need. He continued on, "Heather, I don't know why you worry about things like that - they're beautiful, and perfect just the way they are - remember how far they've come and how they've grown under our care. Why does it matter if someone comes in here - or evaluates them at some appointment for a whopping hour and says otherwise? You know what they can do - and that's more than enough. I don't care if they are labeled "delayed" and you usually don't either. Besides, you know they do things in their own time anyhow."
I took the bath advice and he plopped Mary Louise in my lap - then a while later, switched her out for David. I sat in the tub for over an hour with them - just playing. They picked up their toys, kicked their little legs, grinned, giggled. They (and Brent) reminded me that although this prematurity beast is far from gone (and will probably always be around to some degree) that they are quite simply, babies and will be kids and even adults one day -they don't care about all of the therapists and medicines and insurance mess - they just want to play with toys and squish around in their cereal and snuggle with Mom and Dad. The simplicity of their wants and needs is so refreshing to me.
It's sometimes so difficult not to get wrapped up in over analyzing their every sound and move. I have so many people checking on me and asking about "what the babies are doing NOW" that I find myself constantly assessing them - are they ok - is that ok - was that movement right - am I doing everything I can to help them and facilitate learning.
I know we were finally able to bring our babies home after such a long struggle, but I was ill-prepared for just how connected we would remain to so many medical personnel. Our homecoming was by no means free and clear. Our revolving door of therapists and social workers and phone calls from doctors' offices has slowed significantly in recent weeks. However, the constant evaluations is enough to (in my opinion) drive the most seasoned of mothers mad... I must remind myself that we are all here for the same reason - to give these little ones the best chance to fulfill their enormous potential. Phew - I feel better now...
We did end up going for a long walk this afternoon. We went to the state park and walked the sunny roads rather than the shaded trails. 4 miles down and back home for a little more play time before night night feeding and bed. After my angst this morning over getting the babies to somehow "perform" to some make believe standard that I seemed to inadvertently impose upon us all, I had to giggle when David did this...
a "tripod" sit
and this...playing while sitting...
and Mary Louise did this...a tripod sit...
and this...just flat sitting...
Ok guys, I get it, in your own time. But does YOUR time always have to be 5 minutes AFTER I freak out about everything thereby consistently making me look like a big boob?! pft.
Sorry babies for being so anxiety ridden and impatient...I'm so so proud of you!
xo,
Heather
Saturday, January 9, 2010
long overdue photos!!!
These are from the holidays - after Christmas until now...there are also quite a few little video clips mixed in - enjoy!
Mom's photos - the end is Collin leaving from Houma...
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Mom's photos - the end is Collin leaving from Houma...
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Friday, January 8, 2010
movin' and shakin'
We had our monthly PT appointment today. It went well...Mary Louise and David have both gained significantly in strength. We have "homework" for both to encourage weight bearing throughout their arms and shoulders and practice "tripod" sitting (putting both hands open on the floor while sitting).
David has doubled up suddenly on his cereal eating. Last night I made our regular 4 teaspoons. Mary Louise was tired and not having any so David ate it all - then seemed to want more. I made 3 more teaspoons and he gobbled it right up! He did a repeat eating session this evening!! If he doesn't gain weight with all of this eating I really won't know what to do!
Mary Louise on the other hand has recently decided that if she is to eat, she must hold her own spoon and feed herself. (In case you're wondering, a small bit actually does end up going in her mouth). She's doing a wonderful job I must say! Whatever works at any rate.
Mom and Sean left today after Sean finally received a relatively clean bill of health.
I just can't believe how busy we've been this holiday season! You'd think that with "just staying home" we'd at least have time to take a breath - not the case with 2 preemies on the loose! It has really been wonderful though - we've thoroughly enjoyed it all!
xo,
Heather
David has doubled up suddenly on his cereal eating. Last night I made our regular 4 teaspoons. Mary Louise was tired and not having any so David ate it all - then seemed to want more. I made 3 more teaspoons and he gobbled it right up! He did a repeat eating session this evening!! If he doesn't gain weight with all of this eating I really won't know what to do!
Mary Louise on the other hand has recently decided that if she is to eat, she must hold her own spoon and feed herself. (In case you're wondering, a small bit actually does end up going in her mouth). She's doing a wonderful job I must say! Whatever works at any rate.
Mom and Sean left today after Sean finally received a relatively clean bill of health.
I just can't believe how busy we've been this holiday season! You'd think that with "just staying home" we'd at least have time to take a breath - not the case with 2 preemies on the loose! It has really been wonderful though - we've thoroughly enjoyed it all!
xo,
Heather
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
oodles of uncles
The uncles have been sifting through here. Damon came over Christmas, Collin and Sean are here now - Kyle I'm sure will make a trip sometime soon. The babies have handled it all amazingly well. They really seem to adore the attention. Mom is still here and helping out tons as are Collin and Sean.
David has taken to rolling regularly - especially front to back but sometimes back to front as well. Mary Louise has been doing the same - as long as there is a coveted toy to entice her.
Home health came today - David has not gained weight in the last 2 weeks. Concerning? of course. He has been very very active - and he has been eating huge amounts. I'm really at a loss as to his lack of gain. Mary Louise hit the 11 pound mark today!!! David is still right at 9 and a half pounds. Really all things considered, they are the same distance apart in weight that they have always been. We are really hoping David gains soon as it was recommended by the neo prior to discharge that we wait until he hits 10 pounds to do his hernia surgery. (amongst other reasons of course - we just want him to continue to gain weight regardless).
We are excited to see the PT again here at the house this Friday - always a fun time. Mary Louise did quite well with her Synagis shot today - it is getting bigger though as her weight is increasing, so it's not as uneventful as it used to be.
In other news, David has officially been dropped from our health insurance policy. The real (extra) kicker? The company so graciously phoned us - the day after Christmas - on a Saturday no less - to tell us that he would be dropped the following week. I was under the assumption that he would still be listed on the policy...and receive prescription benefits as he was maxed out in medical claims only. This means that we have to worry about a lapse in coverage if we can't resolve the situation prior to his birthday. I'll say it again - I'm just so upset about this. If anyone has an "in" with Oprah, I'd love to sit on her couch and complain. I'm not a big fan - but realistically, the woman can make things happen!
So, we've has a wonderful visit here. Sadly, Collin must go back to medical school in the islands on Saturday. I'll miss him tons but am so proud of his many accomplishments and use of his vast talent.
Will update soon- and upload photos as well!!
xo,
Heather
David has taken to rolling regularly - especially front to back but sometimes back to front as well. Mary Louise has been doing the same - as long as there is a coveted toy to entice her.
Home health came today - David has not gained weight in the last 2 weeks. Concerning? of course. He has been very very active - and he has been eating huge amounts. I'm really at a loss as to his lack of gain. Mary Louise hit the 11 pound mark today!!! David is still right at 9 and a half pounds. Really all things considered, they are the same distance apart in weight that they have always been. We are really hoping David gains soon as it was recommended by the neo prior to discharge that we wait until he hits 10 pounds to do his hernia surgery. (amongst other reasons of course - we just want him to continue to gain weight regardless).
We are excited to see the PT again here at the house this Friday - always a fun time. Mary Louise did quite well with her Synagis shot today - it is getting bigger though as her weight is increasing, so it's not as uneventful as it used to be.
In other news, David has officially been dropped from our health insurance policy. The real (extra) kicker? The company so graciously phoned us - the day after Christmas - on a Saturday no less - to tell us that he would be dropped the following week. I was under the assumption that he would still be listed on the policy...and receive prescription benefits as he was maxed out in medical claims only. This means that we have to worry about a lapse in coverage if we can't resolve the situation prior to his birthday. I'll say it again - I'm just so upset about this. If anyone has an "in" with Oprah, I'd love to sit on her couch and complain. I'm not a big fan - but realistically, the woman can make things happen!
So, we've has a wonderful visit here. Sadly, Collin must go back to medical school in the islands on Saturday. I'll miss him tons but am so proud of his many accomplishments and use of his vast talent.
Will update soon- and upload photos as well!!
xo,
Heather
Sunday, January 3, 2010
6 years
Today was our (mine and Brent's) 6th wedding anniversary. 6 years ago today we had our beautiful party to celebrate us - our union - our relationship together. I remember how much fun we had at the ceremony and reception - though we were both exhausted from the planning, etc.
Brent was to start the job he has now asap so we just went off for a week to Florida - simple, but fun - just us, we went where we wanted, did what we wanted - we simply enjoyed one another for a bit.
Just before we left the reception my Dad took Brent aside, shook his hand, smiled, and said, "Good luck man - no refunds! She's all yours now - no returns!" and gave him a pat on the back. I'm quite sure that one of the best things both of our parents did for us was to tell us that whatever issues we had, they were to be worked out between us - there was no running home, no involving them - they were our issues and were to be treated accordingly.
Brent and I have definitely had our moments, but truly I feel like we are still dating much of the time. It's so much fun to come home to him, hug him, see his smile. We are and have always been the best of friends first. That fact has carried us (together) through some dark moments and comforted us when we've needed it most.
We got to go to dinner last night and church this morning- it was lovely - fabulous company, good food, and this morning, a wonderful service. As difficult as it is for me to take a moment every now and then, I know it makes us both better in our relationship and in turn allows us peace in our parenting.
Many thanks to Mommom and Uncle Bean for sitting with Mary Louise and David while we enjoyed one another for our anniversary. May Brent and I be so privileged as to have many many more years together to muddle through all life has to offer us.
xo,
Heather
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